The Steps To Overcoming Those Negative Patterns

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Ask someone if they have any bad habits, and most people will say yes. Most of us have at least one thing we'd like to kick. While some bad habits, like knuckle cracking or incessant throat clearing, are just annoying to both us and the people around us, others can be hazardous to your health - smoking, for example. Kicking these bad habits is not an easy task, but don't give up. There are some very helpful tips that will help you get rid of any bad habit you may have acquired. Follow these steps to overcoming those negative patterns in your life!


1. Make It Conscious

With some habits, we don't even realize when we're doing it. We light up without noticing it or crack our necks before we even know we've done it. Every time you find yourself in the midst of this habit, be aware of it. Say it out loud if you need to. The more you bring it to your own attention, the more you can control when it happens.


2. Stay Away From Bad Influences

This doesn't just mean people, although, yes, maybe you need to back away from smoking friends if you're tempted to smoke with them too. This also means influences like sitting restlessly with nothing to do or having lots of snacks lying around. If you find you indulge in your habit under certain circumstances, avoid those circumstances.


3. Replace Habits With Something Else

Find something else that you can use to consciously replace the original habit. For example, every time you're tempted to eat in between meals, watch a YouTube video instead. Distract yourself until that urge dies down to a more manageable level.


4. Tell People

Some habits can be embarrassing to admit to others, so you don't have to do something nearly as drastic as posting it on Twitter, but the more people you tell, the more you are held accountable for your choices. Tell a friend, your partner - if nothing else, journal about it and tell yourself. Making your habit-breaking public knowledge gives you extra support and motivation to stick with it.


5. Hypnotherapy

This one takes a little bit more time and money than our other tips, but it's also one of the most helpful for those habits that you just can't kick any other way. There are a lot of myths about hypnotherapy floating around, so feel free to do a little research and find hypnotherapy info to educate yourself on what the process is like, but it may be what you need to succeed.

Cat Caught Carrying Smuggled Goods Into A Brazilian Prison

I just read this news today in Yahoo. I say, criminals are stepping so low they are reaching hell already. How low can they actually get to even use a domestic animal as an accessory to their plan to whether escape the prison or simply acquire contrabands into the prison ground of Arapiraca in Brazil last Saturday.

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The cat had tape around its body.  Upon closer scrutiny, the contents plastered around the cat's body were several drills, an earphone, memory cards, mobile battery, some small saws and a charger.

The feline is in custody and all the inmates are considered suspect as the cat cannot divulge the mastermind.

Criminals are just becoming so cunning. I think it's stupidity!

Different Folks

This month is a socially challenging time for me. I have met various characters in my day to day dealing and I am not very happy about it.

People are unique and each one has characteristics that I may or may not like but it does not mean I have to avoid them. However, these past few days are trying times for me in terms of diplomacy and patience is considered. I have seen someone I knew for some time to shed true "dark" colors and I have met new characters that will make me cringe and want to smack them on the face.

It would have been nice if the interactions were a bit pleasant but these people really tested my patience and diplomatic tactics. I have already met 3 people who made my stomach turn. One was someone I have known for sometime to be a religious person who ended up disrespecting my family. The other two are old hags who have nothing good to say about other people, who gossips incessantly and mind other people's business.

I am irritated but at the same time, I feel sorry for them because they thought other people like them. On the contrary, even their own fellowmen disown them but life in this place is complicated than that. People here just tend to look the other way to avoid confrontation and harbor enemies. Who wants to go through their daily lives seeing them? No one in their right mind will but this is the harsh reality of life. The world is teeming with different species and unfortunately, these lowly ones have to share the same space as we normal people do.

Fake Friends

Life is so much better when you are surrounded by real friends, the real people who will be there for you no matter what. There are times when you thought a friend is a real friend because this person treats you nice when you are around. This person makes you feel special and loved and when you turn your back, it becomes a different story.

I wish people can be real for once. I don't deserve people like that in my life. So, I decided that I will remove these kinds of people in my life. I don't have to deal with them and I certainly don't have a space for them. I am happy now and I want it that way. One less insignificant and fake person in my life will not make a big impact to me. I have other real friends who love me just as I am!

Our Child's Safety

There was a headline last week about a young girl of 4 yrs. who was sexually abused by the school bus driver and his 2 cohorts who were bus conductors. This happened last year, around November. The news only came out recently because the parents took the child to India and had her examined. It was medically confirmed that she was sexually abused.

The mother had a suspicion last November when she called the bus driver that she would wait for her child on the building lobby where she would be dropped off. The bus driver told her not to go down yet until he called. (More details on the story here: Accused rapist...)

The kid got home but did not tell anything. However, the mother saw weird stains on her uniform and had a bad suspicion. So, she kept the uniform and they went to India for the examination.

Now, the story and the name of the school has been released for public's knowledge so the people are aware that this thing can happen to anyone. 

As a parent, I am fuming mad about this. What human can do such an evil act to an innocent child? She is very helpless. How can she protect herself? What can we do too? 

Most schools here in the UAE employs third-party transport services for reasons beyond my knowledge. Either because the cost of maintaining several fleet of buses and retaining employees is too much of a cost or they are just washing their hands for eventualities like this one.

There is an out-cry from the parents here in UAE. How do we protect our own children? How? Should the government here change their laws and include death penalty? Public hanging perhaps?

Those 3 animals admitted to their crime. What's next? 

So Obnoxious... I am!

I think I am afflicted with a certain degree of obnoxiousness. Not that it is inherent but I just have this very "off" feeling about some people in my circle.

I wonder why I don't like certain people when I don't know them that much personally. It's hard to explain but whenever I see them, my blood boils and I get so irritated. I try my level best to be diplomatic but I can't. I just don't want to associate myself with them for some weird reasons. Either I am turning to a grumpy cow, going through menopause or I am going nuts!

I hope I don't get a black card from the Almighty by feeling like this. I am losing my brownie points!

Baby P - The Innocent Angel

It took me sometime to gather myself and write this post since this hurts deeply and has rattled the very core of my being as a mother. I know, most of you have read the tragic event that lead to the death of Baby P on the hands of his very own mother, boyfriend and a lodger. He died last year but the gruesome facts emerged only recently causing an uproar. How? How can a mother do such things to an innocent being, more so, to her very own son and why? He was 17 months old.

I am enraged just by reading the atrocious accounts that lead to the early demise of Baby P. I cannot fathom the evilness of the people who are responsible in cutting the life of this beautiful baby short on their hands. I am angry at the system and the people who oversee the system of child care in that country. I am feeling a lot of intense emotion right now but I need to voice this out. NO PUNISHMENT IS ENOUGH TO ALLEVIATE THE SUFFERING OF AN INNOCENT CHILD.

Baby P, the little cherub, may you find the peace that you deserve and feel the love that has been selfishly denied of you here on earth there in Heaven where you can no longer feel pain. We are all praying for you. Fly away little angel...

(photo from: Irish Examiner)

The Tweedledums

There were two friends named Dimwit and Dimtwat who lived in the Highland. These two ninnies were known for their shady characters and unpleasant behaviour. They looked down on people as if they were slaves.

One day, these two ninnies went to a posh place to get something done and Dimwit didn't get exactly what was requested so the barrage of insults and expletives flew in every corner of the place and Dimtwat followed suit. They dropped names and told everyone they were from this and that and they would call some officials because they didn't get what they wanted. They would sue the management of the place for ruining something. The slur of inappropriate words were spoken at lightning speed causing a lot of inconvenience to the other citizens.

Well, in the real world, people like them should be hung upside down. Their brains went down to their feet and need to get back to were it should be - that mid part of their head called the skull!

These are the kind of dimwits populating this society. A lot of them are expatriates who came from nothing and when they suddenly had money, they became this proverbial fly on top of the carabao. It's such a shame because they give a very bad image of their fellowmen who are not even close to being like them at all.